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Separation Anxiety?


Shirley asks:

Can you help me with my dog, Jimmy? He has separation anxiety. My neighbor told me that he whines and barks whenever I leave. He jumps on tables, and when I return I find my things all over the floor. Jimmy is a five year-old rescue, who has been with me for three years. He’s been doing this since day one. If I’m gone longer than a half hour, I have to leave him with a neighbor or take him to doggy day-care, and it’s getting expensive.

Immediately when I looked at the photo Shirley had sent me; herself sitting with Jimmy,

a white poodle mix, I felt a severe block in the solar plexus and heart center, and heard the word “restriction.”

Even though Jimmy had one eye, due to physical abuse from his former person, it didn’t seem that the dog had brought any of his baggage into his relationship with Shirley. He was happy in his new home, but he felt purposeless. Jimmy needed a job.

Jimmy also hadn’t developed a spiritual connection - a comfortable trust and surrender to a higher Self or Source. He felt lost and small without Shirley, in the same way we might feel separated and alone when we forget to step out of our pilot’s seat and allow ourselves to operate in the expansion of the Divine within. Shirley had become Jimmy’s source and entire world. Jimmy needed to build his own identity. And I needed to peel the layers to learn what Shirley had done to create such dependence in their relationship.

Scanning downward, I felt a blockage in Jimmy’s heart center. Not just when left alone, but also in general, Jimmy was either grieving, lonely or very unhappy. However, he had high, healthy self esteem with the potential of growing into a confident, powerful individual. In addition, there was a blockage in his lower energy centers. Jimmy felt bored and needed more activity, and for some reason he wasn’t feeling secure and grounded, despite his forever home with a devoted human. Because he was so attached to Shirley, I had a hunch that he was mirroring some of her repressed emotions.

“Jimmy,” I asked, “what can you tell me about Shirley?”

“Shirley is my best friend. I watch out for her. I make sure she gets up in the morning. She needs more friends. It’s all work-related. How about some real fun? I provide her with that. I like our walks to the park. I like to play with other dogs. She is happy when I play. I’m bored at home. When she’s not there, I don’t know what to do with myself. I miss her. I cannot protect her if I am not with her.”