I have a large, strong dog named Alice. We adopted her off of craigslist. I think we are her 2nd or 3rd home. She is so good with humans, but can't be trusted with other female dogs. We have had her three
years, she is four-years old...we have had three incidents with her and other
dogs. I got her so I could walk at night, but now I can't take the chance of
walking her alone. She hasn't had any training, I want to, but my husband refuses to pay for it. Any suggestions? Thank you so much. Jane
I almost cried when I first connected to Alice, a mastiff/lab mix. Immediately she showed me puppies, and I felt extreme sadness and fear. Alice seemed to be grieving from something in her past. She showed me herself outside, and a litter of pups. It seemed that Alice had once been a pregnant street dog, whose litter might have been taken from her. I misinterpreted Alice’s images, and it turned out to be the opposite.
Alice had been the frightened puppy who was taken away from her mom. Jane would later fill me in: Alice’s mom had been a feral Mastiff. Someone opened their heart, and their garage, so the pregnant, feral dog could have her pups. Soon after the birth, all the pups were taken away. Alice and her brother were given to a man, but when Alice kept escaping, the man gave Alice away. After Alice’s second home didn’t work out, Alice found her forever home with Jane and her husband Philip. Alice had a restless heart and an unstable first year of her life.
In the comfort of her home, Alice had a maternal energy, and she protected and enjoyed the company of Jane’s other female dog Fiona. But Alice’s heart and sacral centers were blocked. Alice was either still grieving the loss of her mom, or feeling a disconnect in a present relationship or dynamic in the household.
Alice’s aggression was fear based, as most aggression usually is, but I sensed other issues equally weighing in on her behavior. Not receiving much dialogue from Alice, I asked her how she felt when confronting another female. I felt nervous energy in her solar plexus and navel area. I was puzzled to find her heart and sacral centers still unbalanced when she approached a female dog. I also found blockages in the navel and root centers. The navel center, located three finger widths below the navel, also referred to as the Tanden, is our center of gravity - our internal and external power. Alice was afraid, and felt a strong need to step up and demonstrate her power to other females. But why females?
Was part of her aggressive behavior a mirror of anyone in the family? I took a look at Jane, her husband Philip and their eldest son Justin. Philp’s navel center was strong. He was assertive and vocal, but had fear and control issues. I felt no blockages in Justin whatsoever. In his early twenties, the young man was happy, and maintained an emotionally healthy balance in his life. Jane’s heart, navel and sacral centers were blocked, matching those of Alice’s. My hunch was that Alice’s behavior - pulling on the leash and “locking in” to other females- was largely set off when she was walked by Jane, less so with Philip, and that Alice was most relaxed when walked by her son Justin.
Jane confirmed my assessment, and continued to shed light. I wasn’t expecting what I was about to hear. Jane said she had been ill for many years with severe pelvic pain. So severe that she was wheel chair bound for quite some time. Jane had seen several doctors, none of whom could give her a diagnosis. She had purchased and was wearing chakra bracelets for both her heart and sacral centers, which she said had helped with the pain. Finally she found a therapist who had seen similar symptoms in women who were sexually abused.
Jane had not acknowledged or realized that the sexual abuse she had endured and repressed contributed to her physical condition. Like many women, we often don’t see sexual abuse for what it is when the perpetrator is someone we know. In Jane’s case, the perpetrator was her husband. And she was still living with him. When Jane began working through her fear and anger with her therapist, her physical pain began to leave her body, although she still suffers from IBS.
Jane was afraid to leave her familiar, comfortable home, and although she no longer loved Philip, she was also afraid to leave him. Change is hard. Our mind naturally makes a list of all the things we might lose, instead of all the things we might gain. We remain stuck. Often an animal can thrust us into action.
Jane had also been “at war” with a woman neighbor for six years. One day Jane witnessed her former dog attack this woman. When her former dog passed on, Jane immediately adopted Alice, who stepped up and spoke out, demonstrating Jane’s repressed anger, and the power that Jane needed to reclaim in her life. Alice lashed out on submissive, female dogs. It is by no coincidence that we attract certain animals into our lives.
I suggested Jane walk Alice with Fiona and with her son Justin - with confidence, mindfulness, connection and grounding. I told Jane to buy one more chakra bracelet for the navel center.
Most important: to establish her own identity and acknowledge her self worth in the world, to take steps to change her circumstances, and to take back her power. When Jane is ready she will let go of patterns of disconnection that no longer serve her. When she finally breaks through the wall of grief and fear, she can forgive herself and her husband, and find the strength to leave. In the meantime, she might consider thanking Alice for assisting her through a long, arduous, healing journey.
Diana “Dexter” DeMonte is a renowned animal communicator, teacher, and author of two books. She is a Kundalini yoga and Buddhist meditation instructor, keynote speaker, healer and spiritual activist; vegan for the animals. Visit her website to receive two free gifts: a meditation recording to quiet the mind, and a Kundalini yoga video to increase intuition. www.DianaDelMonte.com